According to A Textbook of Social Psychology by Alcock, Carment, and Sadava, "a set of studies suggests that we are attracted to persons who appear close to the average in terms of facial and physical features." So....the next time someone says that you're 'average', take it as a compliment!!! : )
The aforementioned text also claims that romantic partners tend to be roughly similar in physical attractiveness.
Do you agree? Do you have something to add to this topic? Here's your chance to weigh in! You'll find the comment section conveniently situated below this post so...have at it!
I think people are attracted to attention: more likely to love if first loved, more likely to stray if they find greater attention elsewhere. But attention is what goes in, and that is not love. Love is what comes out of a person. Thus they are not those who love who claim love, but those who choose to be outpourers of love... and true attraction to such a lover is not (merely) to find an aesthetic bull's eye, but to secure a beloved that loves for [the one who loves] to do what he/she loves to do: love.
ReplyDelete@anonymous: i think instead of attention, you should use the word presences. romantic love blooms when one is completely present each other. I do agree with the fact that one should be unconditionally outpouring love. I reeeealllyy like the word outpour. like a large glass overflowing with goodness.
ReplyDeletefrom my experiences, attraction is all about energy and self-love. you will attract the people around who vibrate on the same level of consciousness you are running on. (self-talk, beliefs, what you see, do, hear, ect..)
I figured this out when i attracted the wrong kind of girl. we were the in romantic love, but it came from a place of ego, instead of a place of love and respect. I have even caught myself sabotaging my own relationships. I had to ask myself, what kind of things do i have to change within myself to attract the type of girl i want and keep her. and really focus on the feeling of romance and connection.
physical appearance is just one small part of attraction that is hyped up by media. on the flipside, it does enhance the attraction and of course makes sex better. and most people who work out feel really good and confident, thus attracting partners who are also physically attractive comes naturally.
everything is energy :)
Very philosophical, Anonymous!
ReplyDeleteGreat introspection, Spencer T.